Some people don’t know how to be happy for you

They don’t know how to be happy for you

A few weeks ago I was feeling hurt and was talking with God about some people and He said to me, “They don’t know how to be happy for you.” When God said this to me, I was like oh whoa! It all made sense and I immediately felt His peace. Alleluia!

Can I just be for real? There are some people in your inner circle (family and friends) who don’t know how to be happy for you when good things happen to you. That’s just the plain truth. They show it by their reaction. They either say nothing or they downplay it.

Why is it that some people don’t know how to be happy for you?

Why? Because sadly, some people make your happy moment about them and not about you. They start to compare, and as I’ve always said, comparing leads to nothing good most times. Comparing stirs up bad feelings, i.e., envy, jealousy and sometimes even hate. And once those feelings set in, these people are so caught-up in “their feeling” it becomes all about them and not about you, and they just can’t be happy for you.  

The other reason is that there are some people who are self-centered, it’s all about them. If it is not happening to them or their immediate family, they don’t care about you. They love sharing their happy moments with you and expect you to be happy for them; however, they don’t know how to be happy for you when you share your happy moment with them. Totally one sided.

I am always happy for you

I am always happy for you when you share your happy moments with me and I acknowledge by sending congratulatory/encouraging words, cards, gifts, etc. Likewise, when you share your sad and bad moments, I genuinely empathize/care, reach out to you, show you love/support/help and most importantly, I pray for you. That’s just who I am.

People seek “reactions” from “friends”

With this social media phenomenon of sharing and over sharing, people seek reactions, especially “likes” from “friends” (though many “friends” are not really their friends) because they want people to acknowledge /respond/care about whatever they share, i.e., happy, sad and bad moments. And unfortunately many cling to reactions and are disheartened and even get depressed when they don’t get any or as many reactions as they expect.

What to do with those who don’t know how to be happy for you?

So what to do with those who are in your inner circle who don’t know how to be happy for you? When I say “inner circle” I’m referring to people who are close to you and supposedly love you, care for you and have your best interest at heart, not acquaintances. And definitely not enemies because you keep your enemies far, far away. So it hurts when your inner circle response or non-response lets you know that, “Though I might love you, I really don’t like you, care about you and I’m not happy for you when good things happen to you.” It hurts to know that what means something to you, means nothing to them.

Let them go

Okay, so depending on how bad it is, you might have to let them go. For some people, letting go of loved ones is hard to do, but sometimes you have to. I talk to God about everything and everybody, okay. And one of my prayers is, “Abba Father, you see their hearts and You know how they truly feel about me, remove anybody who has ill feelings for me and give me Your peace, in Jesus’ name. Amen” Because one thing I don’t want is people who have ill feelings for me, around me. And you know what, God has removed people from my life and He has given me His peace. And I’m good.

When God removes someone from your life, He will give you His peace and you will be fine. I have no ill feelings towards the people God removed from my life. They were in my life for a reason and a season. The truth is, I sincerely wish them well and my prayer for them is always, “Lord, if they have not accepted Jesus as their Lord and Savior, I pray that they do so before they take their last breath.” Because at the end of the day, accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior, is the only thing that really matters.

Here’s the bottom line, Jesus is the only way to God and He is the only way to heaven. And God wants as many of His children to be with Him in heaven. As a Christian, that’s my prayer for everybody.

Don’t cut ties

Then there are times God does not want you to cut ties with people. I have had this happen to me. There has been times I’d like to cut ties but God has told me not to. Sometimes He has told me why and other times He has not. Either way I’m good. I go with God’s flow because I know my Abba Father loves me, He is my protector and He has my best interest at heart. He wants these people in my life for a reason, even if it’s at a distance.

Go-to God for guidance

I say all this to make one very important point… go-to God! Yes! Go to God for guidance and He’ll tell you exactly what to do with those people who don’t know how to be happy for you and He’ll give you His peace. Praise God!

Are you one of those who don’t know how to be happy for others?

I pray and hope that if you are one of those who don’t know how to be happy for others when good things happen to them, that this message will touch your heart and that you will go-to God for help. God can remove whatever it is that does not let you be happy for others when good things happen to them.

We all have different things we struggle with, i.e., envy, jealousy, hate, anger, addiction, selfishness, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, shyness, insecurity, etc. No matter what your struggle is, go-to God for help. God loves you! He will help you overcome your struggle. He wants the best for you!

Bible Reflection

“The Lord says, “I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name.”” Psalm 91:14 NLT

“For is unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.” Psalm 103:11 NLT

“The Lord his like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust. Psalm 103:13-14 NLT

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NLT

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything you can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 NLT

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